if you are going somewhere, and are already there, is it tactful to call someone and say you're there, when they aren't there?
i take that as a sort of slap in the face.
when i take slaps in the face, i don't get angry. i don't slap back. i just walk away.
i nod my head. i might try to say something like, why did you slap me in the face? but in the end i just walk away.
i just walk away.