Dating Theory #340789

The key is to not be overenthusiastic about something that your date finds underwhelming. Whilst, yourself needs to try to put the air of being underwhelmed by everything (being "cool").

I don't really agree with this theory but it may be valid nonetheless, see exhibit A below:

Exhibit A: A jar of peanut butter can be way more interesting if it overenthusiatically talked about (see commercials, imagine a day to day conversation about peanut butter with someone who loves it vs. someone who just thinks its "ok"). Our psyche trains us to care about something more if our focus of attention. This is the case in emergencies, ie. if someone is telling you enthusiastically their partner is choking, you will be more responsive than if they just casually mention it.

There is a chance for your date to be overwhelmed by your enthusiasm. This is where they begin to be confused, may pity you, or may even be concerned with your mental health. This is generally ok, because you can put the brakes on and relax and they will see you in a clearer view.

Either way there must certainly be an slight extreme one way or another, overwhelmed or underwhelmed, to reciprocate interest and have interest in you reciprocated lies in communication and your inflection in such communication may be the birth or death of a whole new relationship with that person.